It has been hard for me to find inspiration in writing this post. I couldn’t decide what I wanted to share, how deep I wanted to go with my current life situations or whether I had something helpful to share. Regardless, I knew I didn’t want to simply share a commentary on what I am wearing because my blog is much more than that. So, in this position of limbo I decided to share exactly what I want my blog to be for you guys. It took a while to pinpoint my “niche,” but then I realized that I knew it all along, I just didn’t know how to go about fulfilling it.
I started this blog a few years ago as a place to share my story and hopefully help others who may have been through similar situations. I was at a place in my life where I felt like I had finally started to overcome my insecurities and face issues from my past.
It was four days before my 21st birthday that I published my first post, here on Milan Darling. I didnt tell anyone about my blog quite yet because I needed baby steps. I worked on a few posts first and finally decided to tell some friends.
At the time, I was on a big fitness journey which I can truly say helped me turn my life around. My fitness journey may have began as something vain- a way to look and feel better but it slowly turned into something much bigger. It taught me how to love my body, how to nurture it and take care of it.
This has been one of the greatest lessons I have learned because it changed the way I viewed and treated myself.
( You can read a little about it here in a previous post.)
I wanted to share my newfound discoveries with others in hopes to help them find their best selves as well. I wanted to share my healthy recipes, workouts, routines and mental health struggles we all deal with.
In the back of my mind, I always knew I wanted to eventually involve fashion and beauty because those were always my biggest interests. At the time however, I wasn’t feeling brave enough to put my face and body out there, I wanted to continue hiding behind my computer and words.
Frustration soon followed as I couldn’t figure out how to communicate the things I wanted to say. Part of this had to do with the fear of putting myself out there completely, vulnerabilities and all. Quite frankly, it’s incredibly scary. But I never doubted that blogging was something I wanted to do. I took a couple breaks here and there to re-evaluate and figure out what I should be doing and every time I grew sad at the idea that I wasn’t posting and sharing with others.
“If you are not doing what you love, you are wasting your time.”
When I started posting about fashion, I didn’t quite know what to talk about. I went on about my favorite trends or why I chose the outfit I was wearing. I then grew bored of this type of writing because I knew I was better than that.
Although I enjoy fashion and beauty, I want my blog to be more than that. I feel like what I have to offer is valuable and was getting lost in the idea of what I was supposed to be.
As a blogger you are always told to focus on one “niche,” and so I thought I had to focus on only fashion. Now, I have realized that what makes most sense for my blog is to have a well rounded mix of everything I value in my lifestyle. I am here to share my life and that is a whole lot more than just fashion.
Now, I try to look at my blog as a place where I share the things I always wanted to. Fashion, Beauty, Mental Health, Recipes and everything in between. So, from now on you can expect to see more of all of these things, as I want my blog to be well rounded just as I am.
Always with a sense of style and a dash of humor because, I cant help it.
Often people ask me, why mental health? For me, mental health has always been something I struggled with and recently have been able to understand and conquer to the best of my human abilities. I always struggled with self confidence and after my mom passed away I struggled with depression and anxiety for years. (and still sometimes have to battle it off.) I think the worst thing about it all is believing in some way that we are supposed to be perfect. We aren’t supposed to be depressed and so we are embarrassed and avoid telling others or seeking help. But the thing about it is that our struggles make us stronger and that makes us human.
To be human is beautiful and perfection is only a facade.
I wanted to be able to help others. I know what I have gone through has made me into someone with a unique scope of life. With that, I know I can help people see the world the way I do and I believe that is a great power. Everything is what you make it. And although life’s struggles may make you want to be cold and bitter it only means you have let them win. Overcome the struggle and you will overcome everything.
I have come a long way in my few years of blogging and I plan to continue to grow and evolve. I think in a way, blogging has helped me gain confidence and sense of direction in my life. Not only does it force me to put myself out there but it makes me feel a sense of accomplishment in doing what I love. It gives me a feeling of belonging and for that I am forever thankful for.
I am thankful for each day I get to wake up and live and do what I love. I am thankful for the beautiful, genuine souls in my life that keep me going everyday and for those of you who read my blog. I am so incredibly thankful and I hope that I can help spread this love through each post so everyone can leave my blog each day with something valuable.
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